I’m Sammi. My many hats include: actor, yoga instructor, New Yorker, vegetarian, bartender, writer, feminist, and dog mom to my border collie mix named Sherry. Bars I've worked at include The Roof, The Standard Hotel and Bathtub Gin.
The idea for this blog was spawned by a conversation I had with a friend a while back. She said she wished she could go to a bar by herself and just read a book. I said she absolutely could, why not? She said she didn’t feel comfortable sitting at a bar alone; that too many men would try to pick her up; that women don’t have as much freedom as men do to spend quality time with themselves, especially in such a social environment. I agreed with her all her qualms - women SHOULD feel more comfortable being by themselves, and often men don’t get when a woman is by herself that maybe she just wants to be by herself. It’s only been since I started bartending that I really enjoyed going to bars alone. I shoot the shit with the bartender, read or check my emails, even just sit and clear my head while clouding it with liquor. And I think that more women should feel like this, more women should feel free to go to a bar alone and not be weighed down by worries or fears. Maybe they just don’t know where to go.
Thus, A Girl’s Guide to Drinking Alone was born. It’s a combination of my love for cocktailing, writing and feminism.
So go get em girl. This one’s for you.
A couple of caveats about me along this journey:
I’m a bartender, so I have a deep love for the craft and the products. That being said, I pretty much only drink gin, whiskey, wine or cider. I’ll have the occasional rum or tequila cocktail, and I'm getting back into beer after a brief beer-hiatus. I hate vodka. Sorry vodka-soda-lovers, we’ll have to find something else to agree on.
I typically go to these bars at off-peak hours; bars on weekends are generally way too crowded for me. My favorite bar is an empty one, which I understand is not the case for most people. I in no way mean to judge those who love to go out with huge groups of friends, or the women who go to bars solo in order to get picked up – rock on ladies! But for the purposes of this project, I am writing reviews for the women who want to go to a bar alone, with the intention of leaving alone as well.
I go to each of these places only once, so the reviews are colored by my singular experience, unless noted otherwise. I simply don’t have the time or money to get a holistic view of each bar: the first impression’s gonna have to do. Ironically, I can’t drink a lot, so I have one, maybe two, drinks at each place, and I spend about 45 minutes to an hour at every bar.
So enjoy! Let me know what you think, and certainly, if you go alone to one of these places, tell me how it goes! I hope to flood this city with solo lady drinkers. Cheers!
Contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org
To check out more about my life as an actor, head to sammikatz.com
Cover page illustration and logo design by the incredible Olivia McGiff.
**DISCLAIMER: Drink alone responsibly. Not liable for girls who overdrink alone.**